the "other" female orgasm
Different techniques will accomplish different things. We all know about the clitoris and the effects of stimulating it, but the G-spot is not clear to everybody - men as well as women. Here is a different technique to accomplish some different orgasms. Orgasms that not every woman is aware of and that - as a result - may bring about some very intense emotions. Few men know about it, more women do but most either don't know what to do with it or feel ashamed about it: female ejaculation. Not all women can do it and the way they do (and the amount of fluid they produce) may be very different. The amount of fluid may vary from just a few drops to a mug full. You need a little technique to get it done, but first you need to understand it.
Female ejaculate is worked up in the spongy area around the female urethra, better known as the G-spot. It's located at the upper part of the vagina, just behind the entrance at the back of the pubic bone. A woman or girl may have trouble finding it because it is not an easy spot to locate by yourself, but your partner will almost immediately identify it because it actually feels like a little sponge. When stimulated, this little sponge will fill itself with fluid. To the novice woman, the first time she ejaculates feels like she is letting her urine flow because it originates almost from the same area. Don't worry, it's impossible to urinate while having an orgasm (the urethra will temporarily close up) so whatever it is you're doing, it's not urinating.
The G-spot is an area 1 to 1.5 inches across and located about two finger joints deep into the vaginal entrance. Its sensitivity to stimulation was first discovered by Ernest GrŠaefenberg (1881-1957 - the G-spot is named after him) in 1950. As a result of direct stimulation the spot, which works like a sponge, will fill itself with fluid. To date it's unknown specifically what these fluids are, from where exactly they originate or what their exact function is. However, they're neither urine nor vaginal fluids and have no lubricating effect. A G-spot orgasm, combined with ejaculation, is much like the male orgasm, including the physical fatigue and the need for a refractory period. The ejaculate will come out in different flows - different women have different numbers of flows and the amount of ejaculate is very individually determined. Science has different opinions on the question if all women have a G-spot and if all are able to ejaculate.
Stimulating the G-spot to the level where it will ejaculate requires three major items: time, tender play and (usually, but certainly not always) vaginal fisting. What you do is this: you start with stimulating the G-spot (which to some women is even more exciting than stimulating the clitoris) with your fingers and slowly and tenderly work your way to the point where you can slip your hand into the vagina (wear latex gloves at all times, not only to protect yourself but also to protect the tender inner vaginal tissue, and use lots and lots of lubricant). A good tip when you're using lubricant in and around the vagina is to warm it slightly before applying it. It's cold as it comes straight out of the dispenser, which to most women is very uncomfortable on the warm, tender and highly stimulated vagina. Simply have the dispenser ready, but floating in a bowl of warm water so it will warm up while you're playing.
Once you're in, stimulate and stimulate and stimulate (literally pump up the volume) until you feel the vaginal muscles contracting around your wrist (the first sign of an orgasm coming up). That is the signal to change position. Leave four fingers in the vagina and lay your thumb over the clitoris. Now simply squeeze the G-spot from behind and - like you were pressing an orange or a lemon - you'll squeeze out the liquid.
Whatever you do now: DON'T STOP! The orgasm will not only be very, very, very intense, it will also revolve. Let it come and come and come again until your partner asks you to stop. This revolving orgasm may very well last for ten to fifteen minutes. Squeeze out the liquid, ease up a little and when the next wave comes up, squeeze again. There is more to come.
1. If you're into bondage, then by all means tying someone down can add another dimension to this. The movements will be extremely strong, unexpected, uncontrolled and sometimes can be spasmodic. This really will be an orgasm like she's never had before.
2. Spread the bed with lots and lots of towels, because you don't know how much fluid may come out, but there's a fair chance it will easily fill up two or three layers of towels.
3. Be careful and think about safe sex. The fluid may spray around like a fountain and may spray as far as your partner's knees and about half a yard high. Don't worry. The fluid may contain the HIV-virus but this is killed within seconds after it has left the body and exposed to a temperature lower then the average body temperature. However, avoid accidentally getting it on your lips and in your eyes, for reasons of HIV-protection.
4. Be careful about your own fingers. The orgasmic contractions may come to the level of contractions when a woman is giving birth. This can be a very painful experience to the person doing the fisting. If you can't stand it anymore, remove a finger but don't remove your hand. If you want the full effect you have to keep up the stimulation.
If this is new to you remember that there is a good chance your partner may feel ashamed the first time she experiences this. It's very, very intimate, not only the ejaculation itself, but also the intensity of the orgasm. Be prepared for shouting, yelling and possibly animal-like roars and DO comfort your partner immediately afterwards. Have a drink ready, because she probably will be very thirsty and cover her right away to avoid her catching a cold.
Also remember that she will probably feel the presence of her vagina very intensely for the next two or three days as well, which can make her feel confused and vulnerable. Keep in mind that many women don't know about the vaginal orgasm. They are often only used to the clitoral (external) orgasm. An internal one (inside your body) is quite different. The first time this may take some time to explore and accept. But once you're into it nothing - repeat nothing - feels more intense. From a dominant point of view: if you're looking for submission, here is the point where it literally does not matter to most women what you do with them, as long as you do something.
Based on materials from the POWERotics Foundation
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