first asked in the Friday 11 February 2000 issue ~ v02.n05
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THE SURVEY QUESTION WAS:
"What experience do you have with play parties and public play?"
As promised here are the results of the Play Party Experience
Survey we began two issues ago. Following the facts and figures
we're including some of the many anonymous comments we received
from those who took part in this survey. Enjoy!
PLAY PARTY EXPERIENCE
53% have never been to any kind of play party
37% have attended at least a private play party
31% have also attended a public play party
32% have scened at a private play party
25% have scened at a public play party
10% have been a dungeon master at a private play party
9% have been a dungeon master at a public play party
Comments from survey respondents...
"The BDSM community is growing so fast that education on how to
behave at a public or private party cannot keep up. DM's are now
people who have less than 5 years experience in the community
and in some cases have only had "online" experiences not real
ones before volunteering to DM. This is not only not safe, it's
scarry! We need a real push to get those real experienced
players with many years of experience back into the community
and into being DM's again. But unless someone can help with
party manners to the droves of new people, the experienced
players will continue to only play in private."
"This is an EXTREMELY good idea! Run with it. I spend much of
my time at events coaching newcomers on etiquette (I seem to be
approachable), and although I don't mind, it would be nice to
have a known & reliable resource out there to refer them to."
"Being a female sub/dom who is married to a male dom, we often
get invited to private and public parties, as we often start the
play sessions. Most people are initially inhibited because they
are still too worried about what others will think - just get
over it and get on with the fun. You find that if you are open
and obviously enjoying yourself then others will join in and
start to relax and enjoy themselves - that is the key."
"It is very arousing, especially as a male (I think) to be
displayed and used in front of people who I haven't met before.
It makes it much easier for me to accept Mistress' strap-on..."
"i enjoy scenes in public, not only can they be 'safer' in my
eyes, but much more exciting."
"For an exhibitionist such as myself, public scening and being
watched are integral parts of my roleplaying. Without voyeurs,
there would be no exhibitionists. Having said that, sometimes
it takes very little for an audience to be distracting and
disruptive. Getting too close to a scene, especially ones
needing more space, makes it difficult for the Dom to focus on
his willing victim. The willing victim ( me) picks up on the
Dom's distracted manner and starts thinking, which stops the
submission, so... And if you dont know the players? Then take
another step or two back, and introduce yourself later in the
socializing area."
A BIG thank you to all the readers who participated in this
survey and a special thanks to those who took the time to write
to us in the comments box. We got many more responses than we
had room to include here but we read and were glad to receive
each one of them. In fact it was partly the fact that so many
commented on wanting to be involved but their partner wasn't
interested that influenced our decision to add the two pages
now available on the menubar in the Fetish Information
Exchange.
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