A basic primer on the
safe use of candle wax
Many people have played with a bit of candle wax at one time or
another in their lives. Maybe by putting a finger in the pool of
wax at the top of a candle. Maybe by catching a drip of wax on
their skin by accident. Maybe even by dripping a bit of wax on
themselves on purpose. Well, it's the intentional wax play we're
going to talk about here. So if you're interested in playing with
wax on a partner, or even if you just want to play with some on
yourself, we have a few bits of advice we'd like to pass along to
get you started on the right path.
Basic Safety Tips
Make sure you keep your candles and/or crock pot on a level,
stable surface. Keep ice, cold towels and a bowl of water nearby.
Make sure you have a fire extinguisher handy. Be very careful
about lingerie, as some items will melt or burn, sticking to the
skin and causing serious burns. Anything with nylon, vinyl, pvc,
patent leather, etc. can be a problem. Of course having your
partner naked usually solves this problem. And remember that some
artificial fingernails may be melted at high temperatures too.
Keep your basic first aid kit handy and read up on simple burns
just in case you need to handle one (competently).
Oiling the skin before waxing someone makes removal easier later.
Massage oils seem to stay cooler than baby oil which gets hots
under wax. Remember that if your partner is hairy you'll really
want to use oil unless a painful hair removal scene is part of
the plan. Test your candles to see how long they take to develop
a pool of wax so you'll know how far in advance you may need to
Wax/Candle Selection Tip
Use plain cheap white candles, the usual rule being "the cheaper
the safer." This comes from the fact that stearine and paraffin
candles cost less than beeswax ones. Paraffin melts at about 133
degrees fahrenheit while beeswax melts at around 148 degrees.
Obviously the cooler temperature provides a measure of safety.
Candles with scents added, or those with dark colours
(particularly metallics), are often made of beeswax and have an
even higher melting point than plain beeswax does. Burning
someone more severely than you intend to is much easier when you
use these. Some things used to color candles are toxic and can
cause blood poisoning. If you do want to play with colours see
the "crock pots" section below.
Crock Pots / Fondue Pots
These are great for melting large quantities of wax all at once.
The ones with temperature control knobs and dials are ideal (but
check that their controls are accurate). Usually the lowest
setting is all you'll need. Grocery stores and hardware stores in
your area may carry bulk wax, if not then a craft store should
have it. Once you have a nice pot of melted wax you can work on
getting the colours you want by adding some melted Crayola
crayons to the mix (these are non-toxic). Be aware that some
darker colours may stain the skin for a few days. Also remember
that pouring or brushing a lot of wax on someone all at once is
more intense than dripping it on slowly. The sensations from this
will also take longer to subside as it takes longer for the wax
Temperature can be varied based on the height from which you
drip, drop or pour the wax. Check temperature by dropping some on
yourself, using the back of your hand and your inner forearm. Ice
cubes can be used to confuse a blindfolded partner, giving them
cold when they expect heat. Although actually they may find it
hard to distinguish between the two, particularly the longer the
scene goes on. Ice can also help lift the wax off the skin later.
Other removal tool ideas include using ice scrappers, fingernails
and blunt knives. Areas with hair may require a (flea) comb or
even a razor. You can also whip, paddle, spank or flog the wax
off, but remember that the skin under the wax may be very
Here are a couple of things you may want to try for fun. While
some people use brushes to apply wax from their crock pot, one
thing I like to do is to apply the wax with my own hands. If you
can stand the heat, then coating your hands with melted wax and
touching, stroking, gripping your partner's flesh with them
creates some interesting sensations...for both of you. Another
thing you may want to do is combine a _short_ Saran warp
mummification session with the waxing. Doing this at the end of a
long waxing will cause your partner's body temperature to rise
and it will make them sweat profusely. If you began by oiling
their skin before the waxing then this will make the wax just
about fall off them when you unwrap them.
Clean Up Tips
Drop cloths are a good thing. Disposable ones make things easy,
but if you have an old plastic coated shower curtain liner these
work pretty well too. Remember that if you get wax on clothing or
cloth drop cloths you'll need to remove as much as you can before
trying to clean them. Wax will clog your shower drains and your
washing machine (household appliances can't consent so try not to
abuse them). An iron and some wax paper, or a brown paper bag or
newspaper can be used to remove wax from carpets (though stains
from coloured wax may remain).
Ok, those are the basics for now. If you have some "Wax Play"
hints, tips or tricks to share, or maybe some stories about
waxing scenes, please feel free to send them to us. We'd love to
add some pages of readers' tips and tricks. You can use the comment
form below or send your feedback to me at my address.
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